Kindness

You know what, kindness ROCKS, it can turn anyone's day into an amazing day no matter how horrible it was previously. It has SO much power to make AMAZING POSITIVE things happen. I look at my cancer diagnoses and I don't know what I would have done if not for the kindness shown to me by my friends, family, even random strangers like nurses and doctors. Kindness keeps my world turning, no joke. But what I don't understand is why it's considered weird at times or worse, creepy. For example a guy walks into a store and sees an attractive woman. So he decides to tell her he thinks she's beautiful. In today's world that's considered weird. This is a little understandable considering all the creepy guys who hit on girls and ruin kindness for the other guys. But it doesn’t have to be weird, it can be just kind, a nice compliment exchanged between strangers

But then there are friends? What I find most disappointing is that if I turn to a friend randomly and tell them how much I appreciate them, respect them, and love them. They will most likely look at me like I'm crazy, wondering why I would dump all this on them. Kindness should make people happy, cheer them up and make them happy to be alive. But instead it's so uncommon in the world that when a cancer patient thanks someone, from his heart, for all the support they give him, it comes off as weird.

The cancer part shouldn't even matter, we should be able to tell our loved ones that they are loved and appreciated daily. Why would this be weird? I wonder because recently I have had a flood of messages and posts thanking me for being positive. Telling me I am inspiring, and amazing. One girl even told me that I am the reason she is alive today. She told me that my positivity has inspired her to keep living her life rather than end it early. My friends sometimes make it difficult to be humble. But seriously, as much as I'd love to say I aim to inspire I don't. I live my life this way for my own good, because it's the only way I know to live and I have no plans to die anytime soon. I stay positive because it makes me happy and visa-verse. 

But I am able to stay positive because I am kind, it makes me happy to let people know how amazing they are because I think it makes them happy to know it. I am always happy when someone tells me I am important in their life, so I assume this is a universal truth and try to spread the kindness around. I think everyone should regularly, at least once a day, tell someone who is close to them how amazing it is to have them in their life. It's a win/win situation, one person becomes happy because they are appreciated, the other because they have put a smile on a friends face. 

So why doesn't this happen more often, why don't we express our feelings more often. Are we scared of them? No. Maybe the way the public will react when they hear about or see it, possibly. Because we sadly live in a world filled with jealous people, commonly referred to as "haters." People who are upset by other peoples happiness instead of being happy for the other person. For some reason people who are generally unhappy in life get even unhappier when they see other people happy. 

Take a past relationship for example: We were both VERY happy, for the most part, and as soon as people saw this rumors began to fly in the workplace regarding her ex-boyfriend, myself and of course her. This caused problems from the start and they were started by a manager who is well known for nasty rumors. I didn't understand it, when I see a happy couple in the park, it makes me happy. If I see children playing and having a great time with their parents I think that's awesome. Other people’s happiness makes me happy, yet for some reason this is no longer a universal truth. When I was growing up I was taught that colds were contagious, along with smiles, laughter, yawns, dancing, and cooties. Yet this doesn't seem to be true anymore, and I don't think it's the people who are jealous fault. 

I think the fault lies on everyone else sadly. A cold is not contagious if it is kept at a distance, and neither is anything else. So I think we who are happy need to work hard to spread our happiness to others. We are being, almost, selfish with our happiness. Instead of flaunting it at a distance we should find ways to share our happiness. We need to get closer to those who are jealous and instead of chastising them we should embrace them and show them there is no reason to be jealous. They are just as loved as anyone else, and definitely as AMAZING.

So today when you're out in the world, at work, school, church, the park, or a diner, no matter where, find someone and compliment them. Whether it be a friend who has always been there, or an elderly lady you just happen to notice who has a particularly interesting hat. It doesn't matter, give someone a compliment. Let someone know that they have been noticed. Put a smile on someone’s face and I'll bet you receive one for your own. I know it might seem scary at first, the thought of giving a complete stranger a compliment, but keep in mind how you could become the talk of their day. "You won't believe it. This amazing lady/gentleman came up to me today in Macy's just to let me know how pretty she/he thought my hat was." The simplest comment has the power to make someone’s day. So today, why not try it out, who knows it might just make your day too. LOVE EVERYONE ++SMILE++