Labels are a terrible thing, they're
used to classify judge and separate people into separate categories, which is
rather sad. Everything from Goth, Thug, Prep, White, Black, Mexican, Asian, American,
European, Rich, and Poor. These terms are all used to separate us from each
other, "the Goths can't hang out with Preps in high school" or worse,
"The rich shouldn't be seen with the poor." These are all ridiculous
idea's based on irrational fears of less popularity and less wealth. But what's
worse is now we label ourselves, we get into high school, college, a new job,
or a new group. The first decision we are faced with when making a change like
this is, how we want others to see us. So we start changing ourselves to be
what we think other people will accept, we give up our own style and taste to
fit into a predetermined classification.
I find it so sad that we do this, we
all do this, we give up ourselves a piece at a time until we’re someone else,
just to fit in and avoid discrimination. We hide from who we really are,
instead of standing up for our right to enjoy anything. Because that's, in my
opinion, the worst part of it, we give up things we may love, just to fit into
a classification made up by someone we don't even know. For instance, what if
you're a "thug" you can't fall in love with Bach or Mozart, because
someone you've never met decided that they're not cool. Just like a Goth who
LOVES death metal would be made fun of for listening to R Kelly or Kelly Clarkson.
So what if you like it, listen to it. One of my favorite movie lines is from
the movie "Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist" where Nick says
"I don't subscribe to any labels." It's a brilliant idea, he's his
own person, he doesn't want to be anything but himself, he doesn't want to
limit the music, art, or people he can love because of a silly label.
The Label I dislike the most is the
label "Manly" because I get called unmanly quite often for the most
ridiculous reasons. What's more ridiculous is that this one word is supposed to
describe about half the population of the entire world but to assume that half
of the world all fit this description is crazy. Or to think that if you like
Kelly Clarkson (I admit I am a fan) that makes you less of a man. I have been
told I am not manly because I like Kelly Clarkson, Chick Flicks, dancing, being
completely goofy, sometimes crazy, not being aggressive, walking away from
fights, and crying from time to time when it's appropriate or needed. These
traits apparently make me less of a man. . .in that case, I don't want to be
"manly." Which I don't, I want to be ME, The One and Only: John Holt
Yo!!! I want to enjoy life and everything it has to offer.
So why limit the things we can enjoy
by "Subscribing" to these labels, why not create our own label,
called AWESOME, where the only qualification is simply being yourself. If you
love something, THAT'S COOL, as long as it's not causing anyone physical or emotional
damage, go for it. I won't judge you. Just because you like the Spice Girls,
doesn't mean you can't enjoy woodcarving, hunting, or providing for a family.
You can be a Man and still be yourself, in fact I think that being true to
yourself, is a TRUE sign of manliness. Because a real man doesn't let someone
else tell him what or who he can or can't love or enjoy. But somewhere through
the years this truth has been lost, and you'd think after slavery and
segregation we'd learn that separating ourselves into groups isn't right.
When you decided you want to be in a
group, or you label yourself, you give up SO much. I don't want that, I want to
experience ALL the world has to offer in my short time on earth. I don't think
there's anything wrong with that OR blaring Since You've Been Gone when driving
down the highway singing along, sometimes doing goofy but appropriate arm
movements, and ignoring the other cars who see this dramatic display of musical
perfection and dancing awesomeness. Because it's FUN, so much fun, yeah other
people might see me and think I'm crazy, but who cares what other people think,
I'll likely never see them again anyway and I’m happy while I’m doing it, I’m
having legitimate and childish fun. Something I think we should all enjoy more
often, because there is a time for seriousness and a time for goofiness.
Because in the end, the only label
I'll accept is "Human" or “AWESOME” because that's what we are. We
are all born human beings, and that's the BEAUTIFUL truth of life. We're not
black, Asian, American, or goth. We're Human, and there is no reason any one of
us should limit the things we can be passionate about because of someone else's
opinion of what we should love or dislike. We are all different and the same at
the same time. We all have the same parts, but different experiences which
define who we are and what we love. We should follow our own path, not follow
someone else down theirs. For instance some people are going to hate everything
I've said so far, while others will embrace it. That's the beautiful think
about this country and this world, we have the freedom to make our own
decisions and no one can take that from us. They may limit our choices, but
they cannot take away our ability to choose without us choosing to let them.
So break free from your label, give
something new a chance. Try a new food, movie, or genre. Who knows, it might
change your life, you might find a new passion, you might even fall in love. Be
you and no one else, find yourself and embrace that person. I promise you will
find people that love that person, and you'll find people who share your
opinions not just your style. They'll love you for who YOU ARE, not just your
taste in music or movies. The most beautiful thing you can be is you, and I
promise YOU are beautiful. So find yourself, embrace yourself, and BE yourself.
Because no one can be more you than yourself.